I notice people nowadays are overreacting to unintentional remarks. Ie. A is rushing off to somewhere and B comes along to ask something which requires proper explanation. A made a brash and blunt remark, as time does not permit him to be all-long-winded. B ends up feeling hurt because A had acted in a very rude manner.
Under such circumstances, I don't think it's fair to put the whole blame on B. Neither on A too. B should have realised that A is rushing off somewhere, and that the remark was unintentional. A should have instead stop B in her steps and tell B that "I would talk to you later".
What I don't understand is why are we taking things to the extreme? There should always be room / margin for error. What happen to the word "Benefit of Doubt"?! Don't they realize that humans are imperfect? Everybody has a temper, they have their good and bad days, they have their own faults.. is it wrong that it gets out in public sometimes?
No wonder public outbursts are so common nowadays. Setting exacting standards on oneself is good. But, it's improper to impose such exacting standards on others too.
*Sigh*
Tuesday, March 6, 2012
Tuesday, January 31, 2012
Shooting yourself in the foot
Life is difficult enough, with the prices of ALL things ever on the increase. So, tell me, why are there some people hell-bent on crating a life of misery for you?
It is ironic when we are seeing messages and articles on how to live life simply. Clear out the clutter, and look for ways to simplify... Sadly, the reality is not reflective of this message...
If I can get to Sri Petaling LRT in 3 minutes VS getting to Sri Petaling LRT in 10 minutes, why should I be instructed to take the 10 minute route? It is RIDICULOUS! Funny thing is, people actually have the cheek to point out to you and say "Hey, you should take the 10 min route, even though I know it does not make sense to waste an additional 7 minutes"..
Bless me for having a high level of tolerance towards such lame answer...
It is ironic when we are seeing messages and articles on how to live life simply. Clear out the clutter, and look for ways to simplify... Sadly, the reality is not reflective of this message...
If I can get to Sri Petaling LRT in 3 minutes VS getting to Sri Petaling LRT in 10 minutes, why should I be instructed to take the 10 minute route? It is RIDICULOUS! Funny thing is, people actually have the cheek to point out to you and say "Hey, you should take the 10 min route, even though I know it does not make sense to waste an additional 7 minutes"..
Bless me for having a high level of tolerance towards such lame answer...
Friday, December 23, 2011
Work - Year 2011
I am still in the office now. Unbelievable, right? This ungodly hour... I am supposed to be home at this time now, having taken my dinner and bath, and relaxing on the couch now. Too bad, fantasies don't always translate into reality... =)
The office is very quiet now.. only me and my music. I thought.. "Why not I pen down my thoughts on what 2011 means to me?".. Here I am.
Year 2011 is probably the scariest roller-coaster ride I've ever had, yet. The number of times I had to endure the extreme ups and downs were so many, that I've lost count. They were so mentally-and-emotionally exhausting. " Are your sacrifices worth it?". "Why do you not stand up for yourself and demand for some attention which you deserve?". These questions never cease to circle my mind, the way vultures do when they chance upon their food.
Each time I get home, the sun has set ages ago. Even the "tai chow" restaurants are already closed for the day. I was struggling like hell, trying to adapt to new ways of working, new environment, new colleagues, new busiess, new ways of evaluation, and eveything else. 24 hours never seem to be enough. And, the work culture does not encourage you to shout for help, when you need one. You will get killer alien stares from your colleagues who are probably irritated with your whiny act. I had no choice, but to do it on my own.
Lots of hard knocks on the head. Bandages are never sufficient. As time goes by, I guess I was emotionally-immunised. Nothing seems to faze me anymore. Roadblocks? Oh well, just work around it. If you fail to work around it, be prepared for your business's wrath. What goes in the right ear, comes out from the left.
Can't get the access to some folder or system? Log a ticket with the IT team, and wait for them to attend to your request. May take up to a week just to resolve an issue. Trust me.... it took a lot of restraint on my part, to make sure I do not end up cussing, without me realising.
Lingo management - This is one of the toughest part to deal with. It still is hard, and I don't foresee it improving, It might get even tougher.. as you are dealing with people from different businesses. Why do I say it's difficult? I'll share a story... I was in a call with another colleague discussing on some work issues. That was when I said "But it's compulsory". All I got as a response was pure silence. That was when I thought to myself "Ooops, did I disconnect the call unaccidentally?". I checked the line, we are still connected to one another. That's when realization hit me hard. "Compulsory is not an approved-lingo.. No wonder you got no response". I immediately switched the word with "Mandatory" and the call turn alive again. *Roll eyes* These are the little things which frustrates and embarasses you till no end, because it's so simple, yet it's effect is so lethal.
Colleagues - 8 of us joined the company at the same time, and it does make life at work more bearable. Because you can bitch with one another about how stupid things are, how ineffiicient systems are, how irritating who-and-who can be, how "Upside" or 'Backside" it can be, etc. Our lunch sessions are always the best time to vent and bitch about stuffs. I consider our group very creative.. we can bitch about everything, from nothing to something... Haha. It makes you snap out of work, at least for that one meagre hour and relax a little. I've come to realised that the support group is really essential to ensuring your sanity..... Thank you guys for having never failed to brighten my day, during lunch... =)
My wish for Work - Year 2011 is that:
- After all the sweat, tears, and hard work, my only hope is that these little things do not go unnoticed, and a simple acknowledgement on a job well done, is good enough to warm my heart, and make me not lose faith in the people working in this company.
*A job upgrade with a high pay is not too much to ask for too...* << All I want for Christmas
The office is very quiet now.. only me and my music. I thought.. "Why not I pen down my thoughts on what 2011 means to me?".. Here I am.
Year 2011 is probably the scariest roller-coaster ride I've ever had, yet. The number of times I had to endure the extreme ups and downs were so many, that I've lost count. They were so mentally-and-emotionally exhausting. " Are your sacrifices worth it?". "Why do you not stand up for yourself and demand for some attention which you deserve?". These questions never cease to circle my mind, the way vultures do when they chance upon their food.
Each time I get home, the sun has set ages ago. Even the "tai chow" restaurants are already closed for the day. I was struggling like hell, trying to adapt to new ways of working, new environment, new colleagues, new busiess, new ways of evaluation, and eveything else. 24 hours never seem to be enough. And, the work culture does not encourage you to shout for help, when you need one. You will get killer alien stares from your colleagues who are probably irritated with your whiny act. I had no choice, but to do it on my own.
Lots of hard knocks on the head. Bandages are never sufficient. As time goes by, I guess I was emotionally-immunised. Nothing seems to faze me anymore. Roadblocks? Oh well, just work around it. If you fail to work around it, be prepared for your business's wrath. What goes in the right ear, comes out from the left.
Can't get the access to some folder or system? Log a ticket with the IT team, and wait for them to attend to your request. May take up to a week just to resolve an issue. Trust me.... it took a lot of restraint on my part, to make sure I do not end up cussing, without me realising.
Lingo management - This is one of the toughest part to deal with. It still is hard, and I don't foresee it improving, It might get even tougher.. as you are dealing with people from different businesses. Why do I say it's difficult? I'll share a story... I was in a call with another colleague discussing on some work issues. That was when I said "But it's compulsory". All I got as a response was pure silence. That was when I thought to myself "Ooops, did I disconnect the call unaccidentally?". I checked the line, we are still connected to one another. That's when realization hit me hard. "Compulsory is not an approved-lingo.. No wonder you got no response". I immediately switched the word with "Mandatory" and the call turn alive again. *Roll eyes* These are the little things which frustrates and embarasses you till no end, because it's so simple, yet it's effect is so lethal.
Colleagues - 8 of us joined the company at the same time, and it does make life at work more bearable. Because you can bitch with one another about how stupid things are, how ineffiicient systems are, how irritating who-and-who can be, how "Upside" or 'Backside" it can be, etc. Our lunch sessions are always the best time to vent and bitch about stuffs. I consider our group very creative.. we can bitch about everything, from nothing to something... Haha. It makes you snap out of work, at least for that one meagre hour and relax a little. I've come to realised that the support group is really essential to ensuring your sanity..... Thank you guys for having never failed to brighten my day, during lunch... =)
My wish for Work - Year 2011 is that:
- After all the sweat, tears, and hard work, my only hope is that these little things do not go unnoticed, and a simple acknowledgement on a job well done, is good enough to warm my heart, and make me not lose faith in the people working in this company.
*A job upgrade with a high pay is not too much to ask for too...* << All I want for Christmas
Thursday, December 15, 2011
Iceberg
The tip of an iceberg is not reflective of huge chunk of ice which is hidden beneath the calm waters. I can now start to understand the concept of this statement. I just got served with a new piece of demand, and the more I dig, the murkier it becomes. Also, the fact that this concept is so alien to me, it makes it even tougher for me to piece things up together.
This new demand is what we call the "blue sea" concept - The unexplored territories. This new piece of demand apparently is so popular in US and Europe, that there is interest to hop onto this trend and push forward in Asia. The concept is really interesting, but the challenge here is to search for companies with regional presence, and with a really huge non-exhaustive list of products and services.
I am now starting to understand KK's frustrations when KK is required to be creative and always think-out-of-the-box. Time is hardly on my side... A sordid plan with full details should be ready by 1st week of January 2012.
No Christmas and New Year holidays for me....
This new demand is what we call the "blue sea" concept - The unexplored territories. This new piece of demand apparently is so popular in US and Europe, that there is interest to hop onto this trend and push forward in Asia. The concept is really interesting, but the challenge here is to search for companies with regional presence, and with a really huge non-exhaustive list of products and services.
I am now starting to understand KK's frustrations when KK is required to be creative and always think-out-of-the-box. Time is hardly on my side... A sordid plan with full details should be ready by 1st week of January 2012.
No Christmas and New Year holidays for me....
Tuesday, December 13, 2011
Have you ever?
Have you ever encountered such feelings?
Unhappy, disappointed, disgusted, crushed?
Did your breathing turn shallow?
Did your throat start to constrict?
Did your hands start turning numb?
Did the chilliness of your bone shocked you to consciousness?
Did your mouth turned so dry, that you can start peeling the dry skin off your lips?
Unhappy, disappointed, disgusted, crushed?
Did your breathing turn shallow?
Did your throat start to constrict?
Did your hands start turning numb?
Did the chilliness of your bone shocked you to consciousness?
Did your mouth turned so dry, that you can start peeling the dry skin off your lips?
Wednesday, November 9, 2011
Devil Of Greediness
I was walking with my mum to a neighbour's house to feed her fishes, as the house owner is away for a period of 6 months. My mum has been entrusted with the responsibility to ensure that the fishes are well fed and that they remain alive and healthy when the owner returns. You might be thinking "Wow.. your mum would have to clean the tank, and all sorts then". Well, the owner actually breed fishes in this huge flower pot which houses a lotus-flower like plant... For aesthetic purpose, and also to ensure that no worms, or germs, or even mosquitoes will breed in the pot, as these fishes feed on anything.
It was a sunny-cum-cloudy morning.. As i squat by the pot looking at the fishes clamouring for the fish feed, I realise it's always the survival of the fittest, or rather "May the best one wins". You would notice that the bigger and more agressive fishes will always win the upper hand, as they will be the first to rush to the food source, and practically devour everything before the other fishes even get a whiff of the fish feed.
This is indeed a mirror of what is happening with people nowadays. Everyone is always always dreaming of new and innovative ways to find more, do more, and gain more. This is regardless of its application towards one's personal life or working life. It's not wrong voicing what you want and fighting tooth-and-nail to get it, because your needs is all that matters.
But, has it ever crossed your mind that sometimes, we, humans are just plain greedy? That we are sometimes so aggressive, that it turns out to be a zero-sum game... It's your survival against the others.
How do you justify that XXX is enough for me, and that I should leave the balance to others?
Or should I just grab hold of everything in my line of sight; just because I think I deserve it?
How do I know if I am crossing the line towards the dark side... the Devil of Greediness
For this one time, I wished that there is a SOP..
It was a sunny-cum-cloudy morning.. As i squat by the pot looking at the fishes clamouring for the fish feed, I realise it's always the survival of the fittest, or rather "May the best one wins". You would notice that the bigger and more agressive fishes will always win the upper hand, as they will be the first to rush to the food source, and practically devour everything before the other fishes even get a whiff of the fish feed.
This is indeed a mirror of what is happening with people nowadays. Everyone is always always dreaming of new and innovative ways to find more, do more, and gain more. This is regardless of its application towards one's personal life or working life. It's not wrong voicing what you want and fighting tooth-and-nail to get it, because your needs is all that matters.
But, has it ever crossed your mind that sometimes, we, humans are just plain greedy? That we are sometimes so aggressive, that it turns out to be a zero-sum game... It's your survival against the others.
How do you justify that XXX is enough for me, and that I should leave the balance to others?
Or should I just grab hold of everything in my line of sight; just because I think I deserve it?
How do I know if I am crossing the line towards the dark side... the Devil of Greediness
For this one time, I wished that there is a SOP..
Wednesday, October 5, 2011
Balance
It is difficult to strike a balance, especially when your interest is at stake. I am expected to act ignorant to certain misalignment in this balance; even though my interest is clearly jeopardized. My question is: Why should I do this when other people are already having the upper hand, and I'm obviously at the losing end?
It's too hard for me to swallow the "just close one eye and you'll be fine" excuse. And when I kick up a fuss over such misalignment, I am accused of being too calculative.Why should I be subjected to such treatment, when everyone is supposed to be treated equally?
I am not asking to be showered in Van Cleef & Arpel jewelleries, Hermes Birkin bags, Manolo Blahnik's heels, a designer-exclusive wardrobe which changes with every season.
I only want to be treated FAIRLY.
It's too hard for me to swallow the "just close one eye and you'll be fine" excuse. And when I kick up a fuss over such misalignment, I am accused of being too calculative.Why should I be subjected to such treatment, when everyone is supposed to be treated equally?
I am not asking to be showered in Van Cleef & Arpel jewelleries, Hermes Birkin bags, Manolo Blahnik's heels, a designer-exclusive wardrobe which changes with every season.
I only want to be treated FAIRLY.
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